How will you know if collaborative law is the right choice for you in the context of your divorce, separation or post-divorce or separation problems such as renegotiating financial responsibilities for the children or the children’s living arrangements?

During such a difficult time, the collaborative process allows for a considerable reduction in stress for all those involved which can only benefit children.

The collaborative law process emphasizes the search for solutions instead of focussing on the weaknesses of the other party in order to advance one’s position. There is no need to make hurtful accusations or to highlight the weaknesses of the other in order to gain an advantage.

The collaborative law process provides for the exchange of all relevant and important information. The parties, assisted by their lawyers, are directly involved in the process; they control how it unfolds and what is discussed while respecting the principles of collaborative law.

Collaborative Law Places the Emphasis on Finding Solutions


The varied skills of the collaborative lawyers are available to both parties and can be used towards achieving a positive outcome: finding tailor-made solutions for your needs and those of your family.

The meetings and discussions unfold in a serene manner, without the constant threat of asking the Court to resolve conflicts. The parties invest all their energy in the search for fair and long-term solutions rather than using their energy and financial resources to destroy the other party, often harming themselves in the process.

Not sure?

  • You wish to resolve problems in a civilized manner, with respect and serenity?

  • You want to maintain effective communication with your spouse or partner despite a separation?

  • You intend to participate actively and on an equal footing in the lives of your children and aim to establish the best possible relationship with the other parent?

  • You want to protect your children from the damage and hurt they experience when their parents are in conflict?

  • You want control over the decisions that are made concerning your family and you do not want a third party, a judge, to decide your children’s future and your financial responsibilities?

  •  You know that outcomes in Court are not always best for you and they are not always tailored to your specific needs?

  •  You prefer to invest effort and money in the search for peaceful solutions which allow you and your family a fresh start on solid foundations?
If you agree with any of these statements, collaborative law might be for you. Contact a lawyer who has the required training to discuss your situation.

Remember, how you tackle a problem is often as important as the outcome.